Mothers’ needs are babies’ needs are children’s needs are mother’s needs.

I find myself oscillating between the postpartum world and the realm beyond it on a daily basis. My role as postpartum doula reveals the stark differences between what I need as a mother of two and what my clients need as mothers of newborns. But this dual perspective informs my work and shapes my understanding of maternal needs, and my service is better for it.

In the early days as a new mother, you want nothing more than to keep your baby close. The craving for proximity outweighs any desire for space, and separation feels physically uncomfortable. You’re drawn to nest and cocoon, allowing your entire world to narrow to this singular focus…for a time.

But as you move through Matrescence—this evolving journey of becoming a mother and then finding the self-as-mother—you start to yearn for something more. Your perspective broadens, and you reconnect with parts of yourself that exist beyond your child. Integrating these new pieces of your identity often requires more space than can be found within the boundaries of the nest.

I remember pivotal moments in my own motherhood when I felt the need for space - a life outside the nest. When my daughter was two, I began studying again, seeking to reclaim a part of my life outside of parenting. Later, when my son was 18 months, I started my business.

Amidst these major shifts, there were countless whispers (that felt like screams), “I need a break from being a mum for a minute.” Yet, I also vividly recall the opposite feelings from the early days - watching people hold my newborns while feeling a visceral ache for them to be returned to me.

Shifting between my roles as both postpartum doula and mother, I’m constantly reminded that our needs are unique and not always understood by those around us. What each of us requires in any given moment might be very different from someone else.

As a community of wise women, we owe it to ourselves and every mother who comes after us to advocate for and respect all maternal needs. We don’t have to silently endure the discomfort of visitors playing “Pass the Baby,” nor do we need to feel stifled playing “House” without room for our own growth.

By fostering empathy and understanding, we forge a stronger, more supportive path for all mothers.

We don’t always need space from our little ones…but sometimes, we really really do 😝

If you’re looking for postpartum support, whether you’re pregnant and desiring a protected and cocooned fourth trimester, or you are well into the first year with your wriggly munchkin and desperate for an uninterrupted shower or for a few hours without a nappy leaking onto your clothes… I’ve got You.

My postpartum support is for mothers f pregnancy through to 12 months postpartum and I am here to meet your needs 💜